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What Is BPD borderline personality disorder

I've been meaning to write this post for yonks and haven't ever really gotten around to sitting down and typing it out. I'd love to say it's because I've been super busy jet setting, but in reality my mental health hasn't been amazing and I've been making an effort to prioritise getting better first. Completely on the mend now so I thought it's the best time of any to write my first ever mental health post all about one of the things I've been diagnosed with...

Borderline Personality Disorder (or BPD). What is it? How is it diagnosed? What are the symptoms? ALL the questions.

So Borderline Personality Disorder is the most commonly recognised personality disorder and is diagnosed by a specialist doctor (usually a psychiatrist), but if you reckon you're showing signs of BPD then I'd deffs recommend seeing your GP first to discuss it,

I've stolen this next part from Mind. But basically to get a diagnosis you'd be showing at least five of the following symptoms:

1. You feel very worried about people abandoning you, and you'll do anything to stop that happening.
2. You have very intense emotions that last from a few hours to a few days and can change quickly.
3. You don't have a strong sense of self, and this can change depending on who you're with.
4. You find it very hard to make and keep stable relationships.
5. You feel empty a lot of the time
6. You act impulsively and/or do things that could harm you.
7. You self harm or have suicidal feelings,
8. You have very intense feelings of anger which are hard to control.
9. When stressed you can also suffer with paranoia or dissociation.

Obvz some of the symptoms will be more prominent in some people, and they can affect people in different ways, but that's generally an overview of it. For some more detail check out the NHS BPD Page.

So is there a cure? Well no. There's a whole bunch of medications that can help with some of the more severe symptoms, and talking therapy such as DBT is said to have incredible results - but in reality it's more about managing BPD rather than curing it. Annoying.

I realise this has been pretty brief and I haven't gone into my own diagnosis story or how each of the symptoms affect me personally. I wanted to keep it kind of factual for my first ever mental health post and not get into the nitty gritty straight away!

As always, holla at me on twitter and we can become besties, I'm over @imeloweez


Under £10 playsuit polka dot jumpsuit select fashion

Polka Dot Playsuit - £7.99
Adidas Superstars - £30.00
Mulbery Lily

So I'm all about the cheap clothing and I accidentally stumbled across Select Fashion when searching for Isawitfirst. Thanks to the power of adwords, Select appeared above what I actually wanted and I ended up clicking on it in error.
Good thing really as there are SO MANY bargains on there. If you're rather partial to a jumpsuit like me then there's a tonne at £7.99....they're not the most amazing of quality but for that price I'm not too fussed. They also have a load of culottes starting from £5.99....and I do love a comfy pair of culottes.

So yeah. I'd definitely recommend having a peep, especially if you're just starting uni and money is quite tight.

In other (more personal) news, I actually received THE BEST news on Friday but things aren't set in stone yet and won't be until Monday. So I'm trying not to get overly excited but I'm already grinning insanely like the cheshire cat, even as I type this.

And secondly, I never really know where I'm going with this blog. I love posting fashion content but I'm thinking of venturing into the world of mental health on here. I have a dual diagnosis and would love to help spread awareness, I just fear that it's something you won't want to read? I dunno.....let me know your thoughts.
And without going off on a tangent, I just kind of feel like the blogging world has accelerated into something so un obtainable and I want to keep my little space as real as possible. That's not to say I don't enjoy seeing bloggers have an ace time in Bali etc, but for me blogging has always been about being relatable - and with mental health being such a massive subject I feel I'd be silly not to throw my own experiences into the mix.

So yes. It'd be wins if you could suggest some "keeping it real" blogs for me to follow as I feel my feed is lacking them a bit at the moment!

Over and out.

£14 OUTFIT, £35 VANS

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My skirt was a mere tenner and my t shirt was a bargain at £4. I even lucked out on the pink vans by buying them from the kids section, they go up to a size five and are SO MUCH CHEAPER. The wonders of tax free footwear.

I would say though (and I'm not the only one), the leopard print skirt comes up so small. I sized up and it still bulges around the stomach area...lovely imagery I know.
I find Primark to be so off with sizing which is pretty unhealthy if you're conscious of your weight, which I am at the moment. I wear their clothes ranging from a size 8 to a size 14, and my friend Emma recently sent me an article showing that their size 12 jeans vary on the waist by around 4 inches per pair!

And don't get me started on their "New Improved Sizing" that they've recently introduced.....

Despite all of the above, I'll still shop there as 1. I'm poor, and 2. I'm useless at picking capsule pieces so just go cray around the isles instead screaming TAKE WHAT LITTLE MONEY I HAVE.

So here's to Primark and their ridiculous attempts at measuring out their clothing.

This post seems very passive aggressive. That wasn't the tone I intended when I first started writing this. Soz.


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I want to go back to how my blog used to be, when I'd show my outfits even if they are are bit, er, mundane. I'm not fashion blogger by any means but I've been inspired by the lovely Lucy Wood and her #averagegirlsize movement which has really struck a chord with me.

As you probably know, I'd previously been a bit down about my weight. I take a lot of medication that has impacted my size massively and I'd gotten to the point where I just didn't feel comfortable anymore. But since following the averagegirlsize hashtag I've learnt to embrace my in between size and who knows? I might even go back to wearing outfits that don't just consist of jeans and a t shirt! So if you don't follow Lucy on instagram, or you're not subscribed to her on YouTube, then definitely go and have a stalk.

But going back to how my blog used to be, I used to post outfits and then simply write what was gwan' in my life at that point. And I liked it like that. It was nice to look back on both visually and textually. So here's to 2012 me, who didn't care about numbers, would write a load of rubbish, and try to be funny from time to time. I was a lot happier back then, and after going through a rough time recently, happiness isn't something to be scoffed at.


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vivid hair extensions Northampton blonde before and after
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Before I go into details, I just thought I'd explain straight away that Vivid in Northampton are offering my lovely readers a hefty 10% off a full head of hair extensions if you mention my name when booking, wins!

Just over a year ago, I got my first set of hair extensions from Vivid and I was obsessed. I'd always wanted long locks but my dry and frizzy hair refuses to grow past my shoulders, and by the time it gets to that length it always looks damaged, thin, and super lifeless.

So. I loved them so much that (after finally lifting my hair to the colour of blonde I wanted) I decided to go in to get another set fitted. I went for a full head of bonded extensions, although Vivid do fit tape-ins and micro bead extensions.

The first stage of my hair transformation was a consultation with the lovely Nicole, I explained that I wanted a darker root stretch at the top, blended in to my super blonde ends. She said this was definitely do-able and we then went on to discuss the different methods of extensions available, I'd had bonds last year and they lasted a good 5 months so this seemed like the best option to go for again. I went away feeling confident that my hair was going to be looked after, and excited for the following week's transformation!

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vivid hair extensions northampton before and after salon review

On transformation day, my appointment was at 12pm and I was made to feel welcome straight away with a brew and some pick & mix! As I tucked into the treats, I was introduced to Jemma who would be colouring my hair. I showed her a tonne of pinterest snaps and she got to work, explaining that the roots might look quite dark at first but they'd soon fade to look like the 232312 Perry Edwards pictures I showed her....

Once the colour was done both Nicole and Jemma looked at the ends of my hair and decided they wouldn't blend in with the extensions that well, so they took the time to re dye, wash, and blow dry my hair just to make sure the end result was perfect!

Then it was time to fit the extensions, Nicole was super friendly and my time in the chair went so quickly. I think I was in the salon for about 4 hours but it flew by, especially with the copious cups of tea and a glass of prosecco!

Over all I'd totally recommend Vivid in Northampton, as I've loved my hair both times I've had extensions fitted. If you're hair won't grow and you want a quick fix then extensions are such a good choice.

And don't forget, you'll get 10% off the full price if you quote my name when booking! So definitely visit Vivid's Facebook page and book your consultation!


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I tweeted on Friday asking for recommendations for an Urban Decay Heat palette dupe, and Sandra recommended the I Heart Makeup Chocolate Orange palette. She sent the link over and as soon as I saw the array of warm tones I knew it had to be mine.

I think I Heart Makeup are part of the Tam Beauty group, so the eyeshadow quality is pretty much the same as anything by Makeup Revolution - which is a win for me as those eyeshadows last yonks!

You get 16 shades for a mere £8.99 and the colours themselves are pretty close to those in the Urban Decay Heat palette. So 16 super pretty warm tones perfect for spring, two of which are highly pigmented highlight shades.

I've trialled it today and my eyelids remained all shimmery and orangey from 11am 'till 7pm, so they definitely stand the test of time. They're also really easy to blend and they don't crumble all over the place.

A huge winner for me.

Have you tried anything by I Heart Makeup?


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I know I keep blathering on, but my hair is fried. It was pulled apart by a painful hair extension removal and then I decided to bleach what little life was left in it.
So needless to say it's in need of a little (or a lot of) TLC. With this in mind, when the lovely folk at Klip Shop asked if I wanted to try some products I jumped at the chance.

I'd used the Tigi Serious Conditioner many moons ago and I remember it doing wonders for my hair so I thought I'd revisit it. It's basically a really thick conditioner that helps repair damaged and dry hair, whilst smelling lovely.  It contains sunflower seed oil and silk that targets the parts of your locks that need the most love.
It actually smells quite minty and gives your scalp that nice tingly cool feeling, it'll also help smooth your locks when blowdrying and reduce unwanted frizzyness. A complete winner in my eyes.

The Papaya Leave-In Moisture Spray doesn't smell as minty, it's more of a subtle sweet scent that smells, like, er, sweets. As the name suggests, it's a leave in moisture spray, so I spritz it onto damp hair before blowdrying and it honestly works like a dream. It reduces frizz AND detangles, whilst giving your mane the moisture hit it needs.

The two products together are a great pair, plus they're on sale at the moment so you can bag them both for under £30

Have you tried tigi products before? What're your favourites?
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